Parents Protecting Their Children Should Be a No-Brainer

Parents Protecting Their Children Should Be a No-Brainer

Students and parents arrive masked for the first day of the school year at Grant Elementary School in Los Angeles on Aug. 16, 2021. (Robyn Beck/AFP via Getty Images)

Christian Milord
Christian Milord


Updated: 12/21/2023


Should parents or public schools be in charge of children’s development as they enroll in taxpayer-funded schools? In recent times, there have been battles over critical race theory and transgender ideologies in countless numbers of school districts throughout California and other states. Too many districts have folded to the overreach of state pressure and LGBT activist groups, who bully districts to include woke ideologies in their curricula.
However, the Chino Valley Unified School District (USD) and Murrietta Valley USD in Southern California have come down in favor of sharing information with parents regarding students who experience gender confusion and want to alter their personal pronouns. According to The Epoch Times and other news outlets, Orange USD and Temecula Valley USD are currently debating this sensitive topic, and school board members are divided on how this confidential information ought to be shared with parents.
“We need to look at the context of the parents. Do we really support the parents? We have to be honest with ourselves. We have seen a separation between students and their parents over the last several years when it comes to those discussions,” Orange USD Board Trustee John Lopez said, according to the Orange County Register.
“It’s never OK to lie or deceive parents. Honesty will always be the best policy,” said Mari Barke, president of the Orange County Board of Education, according to the newspaper. “Adults should know better than to keep secrets from a student’s parents.”
However, understanding how factual information or gossip spreads throughout a school, students are often aware of other students’ issues before staff is privy to the info. In other words, school secrets are often open secrets.
Regardless of this reality, why are school boards discussing or voting on this issue? Or if they vote, shouldn’t it be a unanimous vote that parents must be notified regarding school bullying or students who are undergoing an identity crisis? A student who experiences gender confusion also might be unduly influenced by social media or older influencers who wield power over the student.
While parents don’t need to constantly hover over their children, their radar should be attuned to inappropriate outside influences.
An Orange Unified School District board meeting in Orange, Calif., on Aug. 17, 2023. (John Fredricks/The Epoch Times)

An Orange Unified School District board meeting in Orange, Calif., on Aug. 17, 2023. (John Fredricks/The Epoch Times)

It doesn’t take brain surgery for schools to notify parents about their child’s well-being. Indeed, it’s a no-brainer that school boards and district schools should craft policies that keep parents in the loop regarding student academic progress and behavioral issues. Let’s break down why that’s so important.
First, students belong to their parents and not to the state. The majority of parents know their kids best and look out for their best interests. Parents pay taxes that keep the public schools in operation. School staff come and go while parents are permanent, even when their kids grow up. Therefore, parents ought to have a strong voice in what is being taught in the schools.
Next, students attend school for about 30 hours a week. That translates to around 1,080 hours a year due to all the holidays and weekends. Students attend school about 180 days out of the year, but less than 20 percent of the total hours in a week are spent at school. If you examine an entire year, students attend school a bit more than 12 percent of the total hours in a year. The bottom line is that public schools should be serving children and parents, not the other way around.
Unfortunately, some activists paint parents as transphobic when they call for natural rights in school interactions. Most parents merely want to protect the majority of children from the tyranny of unscientific “gender-affirming care.” Society can ill afford to genuflect to a small minority that denies biological truths, lobbies for special treatment, and attempts to dictate the cultural narrative to the majority of folks who cherish traditional family values.
Community members attend a Temecula Valley Unified School District board meeting in Temecula, Calif., on Aug. 22, 2023. (John Fredricks/The Epoch Times)

Community members attend a Temecula Valley Unified School District board meeting in Temecula, Calif., on Aug. 22, 2023. (John Fredricks/The Epoch Times)

When “gender-affirming care” advocates counsel kids to use bathrooms and locker rooms that are the opposite of their biological gender, ingest puberty blockers and intersex drugs, or undergo irreversible surgeries, one would hate to see what gender-negating care would look like. Shouldn’t gender-affirming care affirm one’s biological sex and recognize the clear differences between males and females? These natural differences ought to be celebrated, not denigrated.
Moreover, shouldn’t school boards be discussing methods to improve the curriculum and discipline standards rather than remain fixated on peripheral woke topics? Educators should strive to empower students to be confident critical thinkers who learn civics and earn their way through merit, personal responsibility, and a healthy work ethic.
The power grab by the California state and Gov. Gavin Newsom regarding transgenderism is unnecessary, because local school boards can make decisions on controversial policies. The Epoch Times reported that the Placentia-Yorba Linda USD is parting ways with the California School Boards Association. According to the Orange County Register, this could save the district $30,000 a year in fees. Local control of education should mean just that, local control.
Finally, children are the future of this country and must have their dignity and security protected from the predatory nature of the trans-industrial complex.

Christian Milord is an Orange County, California-based educator, mentor, USCG veteran, and writer. He earned his M.S. degree from California State University, Fullerton, where he mentors student groups and is involved with literacy programs. His interests include culture, economics, education, domestic and foreign policy, and military issues. He can be reached at

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